I work full-time and my wife works extremely part-time out of the house 0 - 10 hours a week but on average 5 hours a week. The kids are 11 and 13 and are gone all day so there is a lot of time in the day to do house chores before I get home. I know she doesn't like being responsible for all of it and I should try and take care of dinner more often and help more with the laundry as they are both thank-less jobs.
If the kids are in school and you are working a FT job while she averages maybe five hrs a week.........do not start doing all the housework, laundry, and cooking. This is not the core issue in the MR. If a woman is in love with her H, she's not going to leave him b/c he didn't do enough housework. That is her job. You have a FT job and studying for exams.
Red flags start waving every time a woman tells her H this is the excuse behind the problems in their relationship. Unless she has been extremely spoiled all her life and has never had to do anything she didn't like, then what she is telling you is a bunch of b.s. it is a smoke screen to cover the real issue.
How long has the sex been dwindling? That is usually another big red flag that something is wrong in the MR, but she'll give him some excuse and finally he just kind if gives up.
Okay, about her lack of attraction for you, let me ask if your weight has dropped or gained excessively the past few years? Did she indicate the loss of attraction had to do with your physical appearance?
More than likely, it goes deeper than the outward looks. I talk a little about it in Sandi's Reflections.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
