James, your marriage is off the road and in the ditch. It is going to take a lot of work and time to get it back on the path. You will probably be working on this for the reminder of this year or longer. Right now get your ducks in a row, read the info Cadet offered, pass that test you referenced and stabilize your yourself and the marriage. Be pleasant, positive and non confrontational. Think of this as a cooling off period. Post here if you have to vent and after your test you should have a plan to get you two out of the ditch. A plan to get out is not getting out, it's just a plan. Get some rest because this is the marathon from hell
Thornton nice post, you could have been describing me. Food for thought.
