So my weekend went better than I expected. Started bad fri afternoon/night; w made me late for my appt by not picking up kids when she said (no biggie if I had more than 15 min notice but in hindsight I can see it was a teenage thing to do and she meant nothing by it). She had dinner made when I got home and left without eating. She texted later and said she fell asleep and prob missed talking to them. We were up late having a dance party so I said we would call before bed. W talked to kids later but our conversation was short and crappy.
W came home early sat am and asked what I had planned. I told her I was taking the kids to get new shoes and a gift for d to take to the party later. I then asked if she would like to join us and she said yes but you have to give me some time to do my hair. We talked for a bit before she got ready and then left. The morning went well, in the store she put her hand in my shoulder to balance when trying on some shoes. I was really surprised, she always keeps her distance. On the way home she suggested grabbing some food and When we got home she made a comment about us being a family with everyone in new shoes. I hadn't heard her mention us as a family in a long time. It was nice to hear regardless if she meant anything by it.
W took son to a play date and I took d to the bday party later but it was more of a drop off one so I got a few things done around the house. W came back shortly after d and I got back home and then left for her friends. She asked what we were doin that night and I told her I was probably going to buy Star Wars to watch with the kids. She said she'd like to watch it with them too so I said I would wait and she said thanks. I was really suprised because she's told me she hates the movies in the past. She also said that her friend's place wasn't kid friendly and she would probably come over again in the morning. She asked what I had planned on doing Sunday when I thought I'd have the kids. I said I had been thinking of going ice skating but if she was going to hang out we'd do something different. Then I asked if she'd like to try. She said no but she would go watch. I said I didn't want to exclude her but we would just see how things went the next day. Later after she went to her friend's house I thought it would be good for her to watch but unfortunately I found out there was hockey all day so no public skating. She was short as usual on the phone that night but I did ask her to pick something up for the kids when she came home.
She came back the next morning she brought balloons and chocolate strawberries for the kids. It was windy and chilly so we all ended up watching tv most of the day and w fell asleep for a few hours on the couch. She went back to her friends that afternoon. Kids and I had a good night and she picked them up from me at work this afternoon.
Tonight after putting the kids to bed she vented a little about work problems she was having with her boss's son and made mention of another "work problem" a few times but I didn't inquire. I could tell something was really bothering her though. Finally she just started talking, she told me about problems she was having with her boss. I let her vent a long time and did a good job validating and told her not to do anything until she wasn't so upset. I could see some of her old fire, how she used to vent to me about work before we were married (she was a stay at home mom from then until a year ago, I always told her that her job was the most important but I know now she wasn't happy; there's no other way we could've done it though, what she accomplished with our son is miraculous and she gives herself little credit). After she vented she talked a bit before she went to her room. Before going downstairs she thanked me for letting her vent. I told her of course and she could vent to me anytime. She said I just needed to get it out that's why I was upset this weekend too and thanked me again.
I certainly don't want her to be unhappy but it was kind of nice to hear it all because I know she's been talking to her boss throughout this and I think she also steers w towards D.
Hopefully I'm not looking too much into the last few days. W did say " I need to save money for my situation" during her complaining but that was the only mention of such. She looked a lot better than she has been lately even though I can tell she is hurting with her medical problem tonight.
I'm trying to keep remembering not to have any expectations and to keep on making myself better.
