Anyone have advice on dealing with the sudden change from friends and family? It's quite hurtful.
I've had the same issues, especially since I'm naturally shy and was more comfortable allowing H to do all of the planning and communicating. Sometimes those friends just don't know what to do or afraid of upsetting one or both of you. So, you have to grow a pair and take the initiative.
So here's what I have done:
1)Reached out by note, phone or text to family and mutual or former friend's just to "check on them" or "say hey". Let them know I've missed them.
2)Organize dates, parties, coffee groups, or small dinners at my house (what ladies used to do...) just because "I miss seeing you all".
3)Got honest. Reached out to some people who seemed nice at work and explained my situation and that I needed some friends. You'd be surprised; people often respond well to feeling needed.
4)Joined some meetup.com activities and a church(I'm not so religious) to broaden my range of support and sense of community belonging. Helps with GAL, too.
If you're like me, these are 180s as well. I realize it takes work to create change. Hope this helps.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
