Need help. Threading water, must learn to swim.

[TimR]

OMG we are in almost the identical situation! I first caught my W on social media and brought it to her attention. She acted like I hurt her by accusing her. Then I investigated more and confronted her again. That time she got angry with me about it and still denied. Then my youngest stepson told me about her sending selfies to the guy and reading the "I love you" text from trailer park boy. I confronted her again and she accused me of putting the youngest up to spying on her. Then I tracked down where the guy lives and caught her car there. I took a picture of it and then text it to her. She called me a stalker! and still denied cheating. She actually told me that she wished I knocked on the door so I could see they were all hanging out and then got mad at me when I said you realize if I knocked on the door your bf would be dead right now and I would be in jail.

Just like your W mine has always taken great pride in her appearance and now she just looks really, really run down. Mine doesn't even do her nails anymore. She looks just exhausted and sick. Of course that was blamed on me too.

I have pulled way back and just today she called me just to chat, which I took the call and then oddly sent me a text a few hours later. I chose to ignore the text. Per going dark I don't want her to think I am there at her beck and call. It seems to be working but who knows what tomorrow will bring??