When I met my fiance, I was super cool, I was very fit, and a little cocky. I didn't need her. In fact, she would chase me. She would text and call me all day long. I wasn't sure about her and she would chase me like crazy.
Slowly I turned into a needy, weak, submissive man over the years. I changed alot. I became fearful of losing her and I did because I didnt keep her attracted. I tried to fix all her problems so she would "owe" me and not leave me. I would rescue her to prove my worth.
Basically I lived in fear. And fear is the opposite of attractive.
When you can look at yourself with this level of honesty and understanding, good things are going to happen. Until we recognize our own changes, we can't really expect our spouses to see what they need to change IMO.
Solid stuff Thornton. I'm right there with you. I got to the point where every time we had to have a talk about anything I first would blurt out "just tell me you're not leaving!" Aye aye aye. What a shell of a man I was.
Work the system James. None of this is going to make any sense right now, so follow those that have come before you. Your W is also going to give you a million and one mixed signals so detach from them and do your own thing. There's SO much you can do for yourself irrespective of her and her swings.
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M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
