What the heck is this?

[2Times2Many]

Thank you, BF and Sotto, for your input.

BF, I will say that is one Valentine's message I will never forget. After he sent the pics I guess he had second thoughts because he asked me what I planned to do with them. I said I wasn't going to do anything with them. (The last thing I want to do is show off pics of my h with knockers!) BTW, there was a contest and he was disappointed he came in second! He actually apologized today for sending them, saying he "knew" I didn't really want to see all those pics. I just said they were funny and changed the subject.

I think I agree there is a bit of both - staying in a safe zone and manipulation - going on. And the tactics are, as Sotto mentioned, skewed logic.

I guess it's comes from the confusion. I want this but I don't know if I really want it???

Sotto, it sounds like your h is deep in MLC-land and I sympathize. In part one of my h's MLC, his biggest issue was that he wanted children of his own. He's since changed his mind about that, but I thought it was interesting that he chose the one thing he knew I couldn't give him to focus on as a reason for leaving. (This go around, he's decided he wants to live overseas knowing I would never move that far from my kids and grandkids.)