Great insight into doing it first. It is what is best and I need to be decisive and this is a 180 for me not to ask her to take care of things because I am at work. I was angry when I posted about confronting the OM, but as someone put "he is just being a male" although a loser who prays on married women, he is just a male. SHE is the one who is cheating, she is the one responsible for my hurt and anger. Plus he could be easily replaced and it might be someone local. At least this guy lives on the other side of the country. Your right about custody and house too. She can be there but if she is she won't be able to communicate with OM and that I am sure is a deal breaker for her wanting to be there, so that problem is solved by the phone & internet going away.
