Hi NYG, most of us here don't post advice based on pure opinion - we post it based on the DB approach. I do think there are reasons why you shouldn't have sent that text and I have also seen many people who believe they know their SO better than posters on this site. It sounds as though you already know it was a mistake, and presumably you haven't had a reply from her?
As you say - it is best if you can try not to do it again and try to follow the advice. From where I am sitting, your W is continuing with her A and dropping kibbles for you every now and again, which you gobble up and then ask for walkies. I'm sorry to be blunt, but I have been in the same place - with my H telling me how he loves me and how beautiful I am and how OW isn't very nice to him - but months later he was still with her - off - on - off - on etc. Wash, rinse, repeat. The only way is to get yourself right out of that situation and leave her to sort out her own mess.
JMHO - but I would encourage you to re-read the 37 rules and assess how your late night text fits with them. If you can act from a place of logic ahead of emotion - then I think you really begin to get somewhere.
Do take care, and I don't mean to offend or upset - I'm posting with good intentions.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
