I've done the same thing, brought home lovely lingerie, got the rolled eyes, wore it anyway on a different night, and got a pat on my shoulder and his back towards me in bed. The rejection is so intense. You just cry all night long...
Same thing as with these ladies that the men are contending with. Our HD needs are so very different that any kind of intimacy intimidates the hell out of them. (LD and ND'ers) It's so very sad to see these situations go on for years with no change at all. So many dreams unfullfilled in our marriages. No wonder the divorce rate is so high. Not that I am saying that divorce solves the problems, it can and has been experianced in the new relationships, too.
Marriage in my mind is all about the willingness to help your spouse, work through your problems, compromise with each other, communication, no games, so many things that our spouses are not willing to do or even attempt.
Back to my point the other day that we were lied to when they took their marrige vows. They have forgotten that they vowed to love, honor and cherish us. They broke their end of the bargain, but we are still suppossed to remain faithful and be happy and fulfilled? We remain faithful, but not happy. What a little loving would do for any of us. I truely commend those LD and ND parters for attempting to resolve their issues and help us with ours. The world would be a happier place with some loving arms around it...
