JoJo, I asked my husband for something from Victoria's Secret this past Christmas. Yeah. I got a waffle iron and a crockpot. I must have looked pretty damn funny with that waffle iron strapped around my naked arse but I am assuming that was his intent...?
Then there was the Christmas before that when I bought the VS thong with the tiny jingle bells on it. My grand plan was to wrap myself (in the thong) up for him for Christmas, but when he saw me walk in the door with the VS bag, he rolled his eyes and I felt so humiliated over the prospect of making myself a gift (that he obviously didn't want) that I turned around, got back in my car, and returned it.
I've done the same thing, brought home lovely lingerie, got the rolled eyes, wore it anyway on a different night, and got a pat on my shoulder and his back towards me in bed. The rejection is so intense. You just cry all night long...
Same thing as with these ladies that the men are contending with. Our HD needs are so very different that any kind of intimacy intimidates the hell out of them. (LD and ND'ers) It's so very sad to see these situations go on for years with no change at all. So many dreams unfullfilled in our marriages. No wonder the divorce rate is so high. Not that I am saying that divorce solves the problems, it can and has been experianced in the new relationships, too.
Marriage in my mind is all about the willingness to help your spouse, work through your problems, compromise with each other, communication, no games, so many things that our spouses are not willing to do or even attempt.
Back to my point the other day that we were lied to when they took their marrige vows. They have forgotten that they vowed to love, honor and cherish us. They broke their end of the bargain, but we are still suppossed to remain faithful and be happy and fulfilled? We remain faithful, but not happy. What a little loving would do for any of us. I truely commend those LD and ND parters for attempting to resolve their issues and help us with ours. The world would be a happier place with some loving arms around it...
hd, You're the man! My W's birthday is Thursday. I chickened out of the thong, not because I was scared of W's reaction but because I was scared to buy it!!! I got her pussy cat slippers instead! My birthday is two weeks away. I told her the only present I want is her but she said she's already got me loads of stuff so I guess I won't be getting her SD
Quote: Looks like we all need to go shopping where Super Dave is shopping just for the flirting!
I was thinking the same thing! It would definitely boost my ego to meet a guy like SuperDave in the elevator (though, with the raincoat and all, it would probably also scare me to death).
hairdog - You are an inspiration to me as I plan my H's b-day tomorrow. I'm sorry she didn't throw the thong on and drag you to the bedroom and ravage you, but it sounds like she was happy nonetheless. Good job!
Actually I am a very friendly guy and put everyone at ease. I do have a tendency to talk to just about everyone for the slightest excuse and for that reason am not often taken on shopping trips by W and D16 - "Dad, you're sooo embarassing". SD
Quote: ...but when he saw me walk in the door with the VS bag, he rolled his eyes and I felt so humiliated over the prospect of making myself a gift (that he obviously didn't want) that I turned around, got back in my car, and returned it.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I had a similar experience with my H once (or twice, or thrice). You are a great wife for sticking by him through all of this.
