So what am I supposed to do? If I don't change anything she'll think well, nothing is changing, right? It's true though, the more I give the more she seems to pull back so I guess I do need to temper that but I don't understand what I am supposed to be doing exactly. Going about my own business, working out (helps a lot), studying for my exam, taking care of myself is all fine but if this is all that I do she will think I am ignoring her - even if I talk to her normally etc. One of her beefs is that I don't do enough to help out around the house so I'm trying to help out a little more but reality is it's not a lot anyway. She was feeling sick today so I made her lunch (I don't cook much).
I had been following the 37 rules but my wife felt I was ignoring her even though I told her I was giving her some space. I really don't know what she wants from me right now. All I know is she said she isn't attracted to me anymore and she certainly is acting that way. Our first marriage counselling session is tomorrow so I'll see what comes of that. The second and third sessions are one on one where we can each sort of spill our beans without fear of pissing the other one off (which is probably a good thing). I just feel that being myself isn't enough and that makes me sad. I work full-time and my wife works extremely part-time out of the house 0 - 10 hours a week but on average 5 hours a week. The kids are 11 and 13 and are gone all day so there is a lot of time in the day to do house chores before I get home. I know she doesn't like being responsible for all of it and I should try and take care of dinner more often and help more with the laundry as they are both thank-less jobs. Since we've been fighting I think she was thinking about the reality of being on her own and started apply for more work outside the house but still part-time but my fear is she'll feel resentful that she's had to do that (we have some financial stresses we are dealing with as well).
Anyway, every persons story is a little different as is mine. I'll keep posting and trying to elaborate further on things but I do appreciate the feedback.
