The start of my Happiness 3

[brutus3]

I feel stupid for holding out hope for someone that would do this to another person. Zues nailed it on the head today when he wrote this.

Sometimes I think, who are these people that would get involved with a married person?

Then I think, who are these people that would get involved with OP when they are married?

But I always go back to, who are these people that would allow themselves to remain emotionally attached to a married person that would get involved with OP?

That last sentence is very interesting and an excellent point. However, we are all flawed and prone to temptation. I was actually the one with the EA in my first marriage and I have the opportunity to see both sides.

It was 18 years ago and I promised myself I'd never go down that path again. The guilt, shame, and the broken bond of trust are never worth it. That experience does give me some insight on how my WW feels though. Cheating sneaks up on a person. It starts out as friendship, attraction, then you end up complaining about your spouse. The next thing you know you are in love and can't turn it around until it runs it's course.

I've been tempted to get too close to other women while in my 2nd marriage but never let anything develop. If I started to see trouble by getting too close to someone else, I'd turn the other way and never look back. I owed my 2nd wife that, I never wanted to hurt her like I did my 1st wife. Sometimes you need to have that type of experience to realize what is happening and when to nip it in the bud.

Look what good it did me!