Hi Sandi2,

Is Divorce Remedy a better suited book for my situation than Divorce Busting?

I wish there where digital formats of the book - I can't get a physical copy of the book delivered to the house without my wife seeing it (the irony!). I'll figure out a way to get the book but my problem right now is I'm studying for a professional designation exam every spare minute so I won't be able to read the book for 3 weeks most likely. To help me get through the next few weeks, is there an outline of the things I should and shouldn't be doing so I don't do something stupid (like breakdown in front of my wife)? We have our first marriage counsellor session on Tuesday so will post back to let you know how that goes.

Since my last post, I asked to speak to my wife and we talked and settled things down a but and she did say she feels there is a chance for us otherwise she would have moved out already. She did reiterate that she is just not attracted to me right now. For Valentine's day I wasn't sure what to do so I got her a nice card with a nice note I wrote in it thanking her being there over the years, some flowers and made her breakfast in bed. As I expected, none of it made much of an impact but I was prepared for that. As my wife said, this isn't going to get fixed overnight and I'm ok with that. I just need to know what I should and shouldn't be doing so that I can get things going in the right direction now. I do feel that the more attention I give her, the more I apologize to her etc the more it empowers (reinforces) her belief that she is doing the right thing by pulling back and putting a wall up. We are still sleeping in the same bed but just sleeping smile That said, we are talking and interacting day to day fairly well but obviously nothing more than that so it's a good place to start - I'll try not to screw that up!

Again, if you have a Coles Notes of Divorce Remedy to get me by that would be very helpful to get my by. I'll definitely be buying the book though.