There was only one thing I asked for for my birthday, and she could not comply. When I was 12, my mother made an Angel Food Confetti cake, which I very much enjoyed, because it is light, festive, and quite large. Ever since we got married, when my birthday comes around, I ask W for such a cake. She made one a VERY long time ago - I think it was my first post-marriage birthday. Never again since then. She calls it "boring." I asked for one again this year, and she initially agreed, but then asked me several times if I wouldn't "rather" have a more "traditional" cake - she buys them at the store. Chocolate (which I do like), but much heavier, and not as much fun. I do not ask for specific gifts for my birthday, even though receiving gifts is my secondary LL, because I've learned she just isn't into gift-giving. I know, I really should try to make some suggestions, however at this point, I'm sure she still wouldn't really "get it" - she's not ready yet.
