Sandi, thanks for the advice and the post you have done, I have one last question before I stop posting on this board.
My wife of over 15yrs has had an EA of over 2yrs according to her. She agreed to MC we went whe she was ask to give up EA she refused and said that she was just there for me so Maybe I would realize it was over. Last Saturday we talked She said could I still be friends with OM and I said No. She wants an monthly allowance, she wants to get a career so she can be independent while she lives in our house and wants me to be her best friend not her H. I said okay we can start being friends and all the other stuff but you need to give up EA, she is not willing to do that. I told her that I couldn't do it anymore living in the same house being a family while she still engaged with the OM. She will stay at the house until the kids get out of school. I care sh..less of how I will take care of the kids, had a hyperventilation attack yesterday. My question is since you have live through this, Did I do the right thing? It might be to late now but shoulded I just continue being passive like the DB couch said I don't think my couch realized how deep my wife EA is, she is going by the books that EA only last 9 months it's been two years. Any who, I would really value your opinion. Thanks.
