NYGal: Still Trying to GAL

[broke]

I completely agree with Sotto. I think your W wants to make sure she still has you as an option. I am no expert, but I think the DR book talks about not getting your hopes up when they start talk of reconciling because it could scare them away or it may take several times before it "sticks". So, I think Sotto's advice of not engaging about that kind of talk and waiting for her to hit a wall is solid.

In the meantime, work on yourself. I know it is very hard to take that advice because I would like my H to get over his OW and want to reconcile ASAP. Someone posted great advice on my story that said not "to stand still" while you were db'ing. You and I both need to focus on how we get stronger for ourselves or for being our "best selves" to reconcile and have a better marriage than before.

Thinking of you.