I am not going as far to say that every LBH who has a WW is the nice-guy type of man. I do get amazed in how many I see on the board that usually have those nice-guy traits. In all fairness to men across the board and over the years, i have definitely seen a few who were not considered the nice-guy type........they just had a WW.
I saw you start this thread yesterday however was on my phone and wanted to respond from my computer and read it all in detail.
Why are men NICE GUYS?
Answer: We are raised mostly by our mothers, have teachers who are mostly woman, may have fears of abandonment, possibly some sort of shame that we are some how responsible for being abandoned. We were raised in the post Vietnam war era/ World War 2 parents.
I know in my case my father was a "NICE GUY" who was raised by his mother. So much of what I learned to be a male came from my nice guy father. So he was a conflict avoidant,co-dependent, enabling personality, so of course was I. Of course as stated above - mothers and teachers also have some responsibility in this trait.
So I agree that nearly everyone on these boards can fall into some category here. And of course another question is how do we keep our children and grand children from falling into the same trap?
Anyways great posts sandi2, thanks for all you do. I will likely link this thread in with your others so it can be used as a resource in the future along with the others.
