NYG, I think she reels you in a little, then just lets you drift. And by letting yourself be reeled in, she gets enough reassurance to let you drift again. Please know that she is unlikely to completely let go of OW in the short term. If you need a new strategy, have one that focuses on you and on rebuilding your own life after this difficult time.

Just inwardly cut her loose and be less available to her. If you have contact, be less willing to engage in any R talks. Until or unless she hits a wall, I suspect little will change and you don't want to be on a rollercoaster with her during this time. This is her problem not yours, and ultimately she risks losing you.

Focus on detaching by 'attaching' to your own life and building up new activities you enjoy. You're doing well & it is still early days xx

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus