New night(s)

[trumpet]

I was showing kindness. I have for the past couple weeks. I was a bit annoyed at finding out about the missed call, but explained my concern as if my wife had found browser history that showed I was looking at porn again. She'd be upset and would want to know why I 'fell off the horse'. I would expect it.

She was quiet after that. I just told her it's about me trying to help her through this. I know there were going to be stumbling blocks potentially. Just have to hit them head-on, and work through them.

Her snippiness and words that really put her in a negative light point to internal issues of her conscience. I can't help with that. I just point to the good qualities she exhibits. Her focus on weight loss and looking good is awesome. She is proud of it, as am I. She's not happy when I don't seem to pick up on nonverbal or even verbal cues that she is in a mood to talk. It's been her MO to expect me to know when she's in a mood to be understood. I do listen, but times I start to actually respond - and I think she's more looking for a friend to talk to, without me saying anything. I have learned not to fix things with her, but when to converse, or when to just shut up, and let the silence be uncomfortable.