I am amazed at how well you seem to be doing at such an early stage. My H started the ILYBINILWY in July and the first 3 months were awful - no eating (lost 27 pounds), no sleeping and some days couldn't function. It has been almost 7 months and I am making lots of positive steps toward my own goals and getting stronger. However, I am nowhere near moving forward towards acceptance. Oh, how I would love to be over the (false?) hope and move on because he was cheating on me and lied about it several times to me and our sons. He has no desire to reconcile and is very cold and indifferent to me. I was not kind or calm like you when I finally received confirmation of the affair. In fact, I would say I was pretty evil for about a month until I realized that person wasn't me at all. I hope that I someday can get to the place where you are at. You seem like you really love her to want her to be so happy after what she has done and you are very supportive of her. I hope she realizes someday what she has given up. And, I hope that you can continue on your positive journey toward acceptance. Thank you for sharing.
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
