Hang in there. Keep using your support network. My wife has posted FB messages, similar to your wife's. If she's got issues, only she can fix them. You do have a gift of time, like Cadet says. I love it that you gave her a card with D3.
I did cry in front of wife, too. Each time, showing lots of emotion. It got me nowhere - a little pity, but my W is looking for strength and a manly man - not a highly emotional crying sack of boy. I've made changes, some have stuck. Working on some others.
How is work for you? Instead of watching TV, could you do something? I got into running until I hurt my achilles.
M46, EXWW46 M15 T17 D20, S19, D13 M - Addiction since 1998 W EA/PA #1 2013/2014 W EA #2 June 2015... BD 1 Big D talk 9/15 BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15 Served D 1/22/16 Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)