Just started reading your story. I also think that we have ALOT in common about how we handle ourselves and our situations. I appreciate your feedback and value your input, so please keep following my thread. I do need to accept that things are the way they are and realize I can't control her. I find myself just wanting to know what she is upto and tell myself it will help me. It does not help me and it does not help my DBing. The time I spend on the BS I could be bettering myself and I will try to remind myself of that from now on. I WILL BE BETTER THan THAT MAN but not for her, for myself. I too accepted my identity in life as the husband and father and NOT as me. I like me, I miss me, I will be me!
