WW, My Addiction, Patience, and Hope - III

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Sandi, I think you're right. Her anger isn't in what I'm doing, it's that she's angry the affair is done. She did say that she might be depressed right now, something she hasn't said before.

She thinks having the same IC is weird - the goal would be to get to couple MC someday with the counselor. She has mentioned her concern is that we're talking about her in my sessions (we're not - the focus is on me, and how I can be a loving husband for her, even when she doesn't reciprocate). I think this comes to her thinking I'm judging her all the time. I'm not, I think she's judging/condeming herself, and is moving anger from herself to me. In the beginning, I did all the usual things, but in the last month, I've seen my hurt lessen, and I'm giving it to God.

There is a distance between us now - for me, it wasn't there before, or I didn't notice. I hope once my W is through withdrawls, and starts to make some effort on us, that we can close the distance.

I did buy her carnations - red and white - for mother's day. The kids made cards for her. I did buy her a gift, but it won't be here for a few days. I'm doing things I've never done before - we never celebrated Valentine's Day.