MB can I suggest that maybe you don't want this man back? Reading over the body of your posts here tells me you're a smart and strong lady. You really can find a wonderful man who treats you like a queen. Loves you, respects you, encourages you to pursue your dreams and supports you when you do. Doesn't isolate you. I know you love your husband. You're a great wife. As much as I am pro-marriage, your situation sounds like it should be YOU that is walking away from this marriage, not him. He's a full-on narcissist. His behavior screams of it. He's also horribly insecure which is why he keeps his women locked away from the world.
What you did with OW was plant the seeds of truth that will now grow. She'll see with her own eyes that you're absolutely right about him. Why he was so angry is because he knows he lies badly to both of you and that you have now compared notes. He knows that a lot of his lies to both of you are now known but he doesn't know which ones. That is going to drive him nuts, and rightly so.
