Hi Cali. You sound to be in a very strong state of acceptance. Isn't it freeing? Especially compared to where we were just a couple of years ago. There is such a peacefulness in knowing all will be ok, no matter what
I hope your son had a nice birthday. My son's is coming up in March. Guess what the theme is!!?? Gaming! Lol. I have to admit, he has a talent there. At after school pick up on Friday, he was surrounded by kids watching him play, they told me he was amazing, that they have never seen someone get to his level. It will be interesting to see what that talent will turn into as he gets older.
I love that your dog still finds you, blind and all. I have never been a dog person, until my lab I have now. She has become such a comfort and blessing, I finally see what all the hype is about. So, it doesn't surprise me to hear you say that.
A truck and a Harley, huh? No boat or jet ski, maybe a skooter? THEN I would worry You know, this MLC stuff forces us to make changes. The lucky ones, like us here, make changes for the better. We all resist at first...I know I did, but then I realized this new me and new life really isn't so bad. In fact, it can be better than the past life in so many ways. I see you have discovered the same secret. Hold onto that and your faith Cali.
My crazy family will be in your area soon! The weather is looking nice, I am ready for some Socal sunshine!
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
I knew something has been off Just confirmed W is still with OM1.... Discovered a text 1/30 they met... This morning she sent him a "glamour" shot of her vagina. I looked on her iMac and left a note "W ... Very classy I want a divorce enjoy your life with OM...Cali"
This is it for me, I'm done I called the number she texted just to confirm if it was OM1 or someone else ... He had a very happy nice greeting
I don't blame you. It's not acceptable. You've been extremely patient, kind, and self-examining. There doesw come a time though when you need to stand up for yourself.
Don't worry though - there IS life after all this - and with the work you've done on yourself, it will be a better life than this, no matter what.
oh honey i'm so sorry but at the same time, there must be some sense of relief in having made a decision? looking for some kind of positive for you in this dreadful turn of evens. i'm going to tell you the same thing I've told myself for the past few days - this week's life lesson for me, anyway: you deserve way more than crumbs from the table, Cali. you've worked hard, you've looked at yourself and made positive changes. you will be fine. so will S because he has you. sending you love and hugs xoxoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Arggghhhh! I am screaming. You are one of my heroes on this board. To see this come to a conclusion so quickly, over such a meaningless/mindless picture and relationship?
Take care of yourself. I am always in your corner.
Cali - ugh. Gross. Looked back at your posts for 1/30. That was the day she was jacket shopping and yes, you were wary that she was bent on leaving by 4:00 and that she came home empty handed.
We all support you. You can only shoulder your share and do your part. You can hold your head up high and we all look at you as a great success!
You deserve peace, quiet and dignity. You are a wonderful father and a good, good man. They don't make them like you too often.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
Unbelievable. I can't believe she did that. I am so mad at your W right now I can't see straight.
You know what? She doesn't deserve you. You are worlds above her and she is a fool. Cali, you keep going on that journey of yours, she doesn't belong in your space right now. She is spiraling down into a dark place, but you? You have been growing and making such positive changes, we all know who will be just fine here.
I really hate this news Cali. I am so sorry, but I am thinking the uncertainty of what to do is gone. Stay strong and take care of yourself and your son.
We are here for you.
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
You know, this MLC stuff forces us to make changes. The lucky ones, like us here, make changes for the better. We all resist at first...I know I did, but then I realized this new me and new life really isn't so bad. In fact, it can be better than the past life in so many ways. I see you have discovered the same secret. Hold onto that and your faith Cali.