2. You mention a few times that the LBH has to be ready to leave the marriage. But what does that mean exactly? Are you suggesting the LBH should push things along (I don't think you are)? So how does the LBH show that?
I think she means that you have to be able to move on from the marriage and know that you will be okay. You have to be able to feel it in your heart. You can't fake it because the WW will know. It'll probably show in your actions. Once you GAL, find yourself, and love yourself, you might be able to pull it off. Your perception of your wife will change too, she'll change from a radiant goddess into a diseased rat. Sometimes I'm in that frame of mind now that I'm away from her and I see her from a distance.
Originally Posted By: Tyler12
My question is how does one enforce some boundaries when S is no longer in the same house or even town?
In my thread I talked about it earlier in more detail but I don't appreciate OM being involved in my kids lives. I tell her I don't like it however I don't believe it will stop it
Maybe if you contacted the OM? I've done that before to the point it drove one of them away but you might want to be careful. My wife used the argument that I was controlling her. Just another reason for her to leave the marriage.
In regards to enforcing boundaries while out of the house: my wife recently asked me to dinner one night and I accepted. Turned into a nightmare and told her I needed space from then on. That we couldn't hang out like friends anymore.
Last edited by Cadet; 02/24/1606:51 AM. Reason: combine posts
M41 W39 D3 Open Marriage Request by W 6/15 BD 9/15 1st EA 10/15 2nd EA discovered: 1/16 I moved out: 1/16 2nd EA blew apart 2/16 PA 4/16 I've had enough, filing for D
