I wanted to go into what Zeus was taking about in azzorks thread and my feeling powerless with wife's actions. And her actions happening because she is trying to get control of her own life.

The exact example is OM involved in my sons lives. He has been introduced to them pretty much from start of A as far as I know. They play happy little family and go to the zoo and all that bs and it makes me angry and sick to my stomach.

Recently what bothers me more is more complicated. And has a bit of a longer back story. So OM owns a house which he is rarely at as he works away from home 25+ days a month. His mother lives at the house and he pretty much just crashes there on days off. He is/ was away working. And his mother was/is away on vacation and W was asked to house sit and dog sit so for the last few weeks has been living with the boys at his house..... And when he came back from work I don't believe she went home for those days. Just stayed here with him.

To me it is frustrating and angering, saddening and a whole range of emotions. Yet if I say I don't want this then to her I am being controlling and I will get told we are not together and I have no right to tell her how to live her life even if it effects the boys.

The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.