I just wanted to drop by and say hi Huddy. It has been a long struggle for you, but you are going to be okay. I can tell your posts sound stronger.
I don't know about the dating sites, either. When I was in my waywardness, I was on one that seem to just want to find a f--k buddy (as was the term used). I do believe there are women out there that are in the same place as you find yourself, who are scared about getting into the dating scene again and really just want to enjoy the company of a man. Being honest and upfront about not looking for a committed R at the moment, and wanting to ease back into dating may be the way to approach it. But hey, what do I know about the dating scene? (lol)
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!