Wife wants to "move on"

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Hi Clay, I would be as helpful as possible with her getting her stuff. If you are busy right now then, rather than ignoring, perhaps agree a future date with her, so she knows what to plan for. It sounds as though you are still engaging in some sort of dance with her - even though you guys are now D'd. (She wants this, I'm ignoring her, I can't just stop and give her what she wants, I know it's making her upset etc.) Something to think about perhaps?

It is hard to come to terms with D. Have you considered attending some sort of recovery workshop? I did a Divorce Recovery Workshop at the end of last year, which was good. There are also rebuilding seminars. It is good to meet others in similar situations, and may also help you work through any residual feelings about the D.

Take care and good luck