I just moved her clothes from our closet to the guest room. Am I reacting on emotions and going to far?
I just came back from having dinner with her, she apologized for her behavior yesterday, we continued to talk and I ask her what is this about. "I want to keep our peace" to which I reply so are you going to give up your EA? She replied can we still friends, I said No. Therefore she will not give EA, we eat "well she did I couldn't eat", we continued to talk in the car I told her to give us 3 months like the Therapy said with no contact with OM, she got angry and said I'm trying to control her, I remained calm. I drove her back to her mom we talk in the driveway and I told her we can not continue to live together and act as a family "doing things as a family" while she still has EA. I told her she can not have her cake and eat it too. "In her mind she tough I would be okay with her having an AE that feeds her brain and have us be a family". She is afraid that if she leaves OM and I revert to my old behaviors she will have nothing. I admitted that I screw up by not giving her more affirmation of how much she means and love her, I'm working on my behavior to improve my self, not for her but for me because I have a better understanding of my faults. She doesn't want to work things out, therefore she will continue to live with us until the kids get out of school but we are not doing anything as a family. She cry and Hugh me, I went in to her mom's house to say good night to the kids since they are spending the night. She walked me out to my car huh me very tightly and cried and said she was sorry. I told her that over 15yrs ago I had meet her in the same driveway and that was the most happiest moments of my life, that she had been the most wonderful person "she reply crying now I''m not", I said no you are still but you are lost and need to find yourself "she said but I'm hurting everyone". My last words were "I love you so much but I have to let you go so you can find what your looking for"
Will see how things will be for the next 4 months, I will focus on figuring out what it's next for the kids and me. I will take them to my moms every weekend so they start to detach a bit from their mom and hopefully it will be less painful when the time comes when their mom to walk out the door. I hope this lost will bring her senses back but will not be holding my breath either, I'm done getting hurt. I fought to keep my kids from getting hurt with a divorce but can not continue to be enabling my wife.
