^^ thanks for that. I know it's only one example but hearing things like that help me feel a little less crazy. I mean, it was not uncommon that XBF and I would have a real-time text convo, I'd say "oh it's late, I should go to bed! goodnight (kiss face emoji)" and he wouldn't even write goodnight back. I just want a "goodnight" too! ugh. I guess when XBF was like this in the beginning I chalked it up to it just being the beginning, but I should be more careful about assuming things will progress as they go.
Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final