Staying The Course

[Flight]

I just hope for both of us if we show how much we've gone back to the woman they fell in love with on a consistent basis that they will see they made a mistake walking away

I know a lot of us want and wish and hope for reconciliation, and I don't want to be a downer, but I can't help thinking that "standing" in this way, not truly moving forward with our lives, is a form of emotional abuse. We take it from our WS, and then we dish it out to ourselves because we keep hoping they will "come to their senses". What if they didn't make a mistake? What if that is what they want?

I see some people waiting years and years still "hoping". When is it just avoiding reality? I think the point of the 180 is to get a life. Maybe in a few months YOU see you are better off without their cheating, lying ways. Or, you leave the door open, but your life is still just fine with them or without them. Yes, you can draw them back, and it may be the only way left to do it, but it is a small chance and you don't make it your goal or bet your life on it.

Another way to ask the question is, are we sacrificing our self respect by "going back to the person they fell in love with" in order to win someone back who may not be worthy of our love in the first place.