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Upon further reflection.. I think there were signs there. I either just chose to ignore them (probably because once I had slept with him I wanted to justify staying with him, and especially as more time passed) or didn't put two and two together. XBF was very reluctant to talk about past relationships when I asked some low-key questions three months in - for example, he said his last LDR/online thing "wasn't good" for him and was very vague.. then when she texted him out of the blue one day he said he had to "be careful because she will try to get information and use it against me." what?? but now when I read "avoidants fear intimacy because they fear being used, controlled, or manipulated if they share themselves with someone else." Hmm... so I need to be better at keeping warning signs in my mind up front, believing them, and making decisions accordingly. And hold off on getting physical with people until I've got a clearer idea of the direction things are going so I don't get bonded too early.