In which ways? I am changing them by no longer pursuing her. What other ways do you suggest.
I don't see you following the advice you were given. You are so scared of D, that you won't drop the rope on her. She knows that you know she is dating other men. She is not having an EA with one person. She is acting like girls gone wild. When I was doing what your WW is doing, I was called an Internet whore. I told you why you should not buy an apartment to share with the cheater, but you did anyway. No way is that being a lighthouse, a leader, an example for your kids. You are still letting her lead the relationship, and you follow whatever she says. Clearly, she is still in charge. You are tolerating your WW cheating. You are financially supporting her. She is using you.
Sorry if this sounds too harsh or rude to some of you guys who seem to think there is "strength" in taking this passive road, but the WW sees it being anything except strength.....or attractive. She will not commit to working on this MR as long as things continue down this direction.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
