Hi Sandi,

I have a question.

Once a WW is remorseful, says she is sorry for what happened and wants to go back to having a family I understand there will be a detox period.

What I have doubts about is the initiation and not just sex. If she just kisses when she leaves to go somewhere and never did before, texts in the morning to say hi when I am travelling and sporadically sends images of something from a meal she cooked to something that arrived in the post for me. I take these as good signs.

She however once last week walked in my room and passed her hands through my hair, and a couple of weeks ago sent a selfie of her in a dress she bought that i liked.

When I am travelling she almost always texts at night to say goodnight.

Are these signs she is warming? Why is the sex and touchiness still missing? I tried once to initiate some weeks ago and she participated. I then tried a few weeks later and she wasnt in the mood so I backed off since.

I read your post where WS need time to get back in the mood and to be weary if they jump back in soon after. Is this what is happening or am I being played?

Sometimes it is so difficult to know where you stand when things are so black or white or extreme.

She leaves her phone lying around, spends more time at home. Starts to do some things different at home and in general starts to talk about fixing the home like painting and things like that.

What is your opinion?


M: 50
S: 25

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