Hi Painter, I'm a little like your H in that I hate the TV to be on for longer periods of time as background - I find it stressful. I only like to have the TV on to watch a programme and then I turn it off. Do you think that's what he is trying to express to you, but it's coming out as aggressive and snarky comments?

I felt that kind of aggression from my H too. One of his areas of focus was the pants I wore & he would keep mentioning them in a snarky way. Whether this means he is in touch with OP, IDK. Have you seen other potential signs of this. It could just mean that he is having an 'off' phase WRT his feelings about the M.

Maybe it's a good time to change things up a little with the TV? Try having some calming music playing for yourself and a nice candle lit? See what effect that has? I'm not suggesting trying to contort yourself to please him, but it would be good to break the old wash, rinse, repeat cycle WRT the TV perhaps?

Hope this helps a little xx

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