Flight's Thread #2

[Flight]

Well, having her own place and all the bills and doing everything herself will be an eye opener.

And I think we want to do our own rationalizations to explain their behavior and try and cope with it. I am no psychologist, but in my research I think there is some MLC in my situation also. She doesn't seem to need the EA partner at the moment. It is like his is a pleasant distraction that she can keep on the string and will pursue that when she has her "freedom". She could be out every night like a lot of WS are. She isn't. She is trying to convince me that it is our relationship and another person has nothing to do with it.

All the talk of feeling trapped and needing her freedom and saying she has fears and anxieties but is ignoring them all smacks of MLC. But she does have a pattern of when a relationship isn't giving her the happiness she thinks she deserves, she checks out and plans her exit. And like a lot of Waywards, they don't do it until they have someone else to fall back on.

I am in an awkward position of wanting her out now, and willing to do a little work on our arrangements. But I shouldn't have to do her work for her. Since entitlement is part of people in affairs, she thinks she is entitled to move out and live the same way she lives now. I told her if she wants out, get out. I'm not financing her lifestyle.