Long time

[Nel]

Mirepoi-
Thanks for the advice. You are right in that MLC'ers are like little children with new toys. That's what I'm thinking about his new house. The novelty will wear off soon and he'll see how alone he is.


So, I am really dreading Valentine's Day. This was the weekend last year that my H filed and the weekend has horrible memories for me. This year isn't looking any better since I'm in the same situation again. I definitely needed to plan something to do, so I am going on a weekend away from our town with D17 and D19. I don't get to see D19 very often since she attends college far away, so I'm excited that D17 and I get to spend time with her. That will definitely take my mind off what is going on here.

Still dark with H as much as possible. I had told him when he filed both this year and last year that if I couldn't be his wife then I didn't want to be his friend either because friends don't treat each other like this. Now I'm trying to find that balance between staying dark, yet keeping the door ajar. Last year he told me that he had a hard time getting the courage to come to me to tell me he made a mistake and that he missed me. I provided an opening for him because I noticed his odd behavior and said, "Has something changed?" Then he was able to tell me. This time, I'm not quite sure how to handle it. I saw on another poster's thread that they had the same question...afraid that being dark gave the impression that the door was shut. What do you guys think?

Nel