So w has been gone most nights this week at work so not a lot of interaction. She's texted me quite a bit about her whereabouts and more texts with punctuation. Ive kept my replies short, thanks, etc
the morning after staying out late (refer in to former post) she had an early appointment and I was supposed to take the kids to school. She showed back up when I was making lunches and said she got no showed and had to reschedule and then thanked me for making lunches. I told her sorry about her appointment and that it has to be frustrating. She then talked for almost an hour while I listened, only validating. She told me how her previous day was bad, how the client at her first appt. was a perv, and how the next two both made racist comments (not knowing she is half black). I told her I was sorry that happened and she vented a little about it and then talked about her step family happily. During this time she also offered me a sip of her coffee she had just picked up as she was telling me how good it was. I was shocked! I thought I had cooties or something. That night she said she still hadn't put anything together and then we both went to bed.
The next day I kept it short in the morning and didn't see her until that night. She said she still didn't have anything put together. She told me she was doing something with her friend this weekend and mentioned another upcoming concert. I said okay and talked to her just a bit about d's bday coming up next month and went to bed.
I ended up with d at the office yesterday because she wasn't feeling good and have both kids in the office today and Monday. Good thing I don't have a normal job situation or I don't know how I could be handling everything. When d and I got home w told me that her friend needed to leave town and that she needed to stay at her place over the weekend (referring to not leaving) to watch her dogs. I just said okay, laughing inside; I've been expecting something good for v day. Then she told me she wanted the kids to come over there on Sunday since I get them at my office, am taking d to a bday party Saturday afternoon, and planned on taking both kids out to get a few things beforehand. This bothers me because of her dogs, w said she would lock them up when the kids are over, ugh... I was going to bed when she got home that night but she started talking about other things so I sat down and listened for just a bit before saying I needed to go to bed.
This morning she came and interrupted when d was giving me trouble getting ready. She came in and contradicted me, told me how I was handling it wrong (by turning the light on and calmly sitting and talking to a 6 yo not listening) and quickly made me the bad guy to the kids. She started to escalate things so I just went upstairs and had my tea and was late for work.
There has been no mention of d since last weekend and she keeps saying she hasn't had time for the finances. I really need to get our finances in order but wanting to avoid d talk at the same time. It's frustrating.
I've really been seeing her forgetfulness this week. She told me about a car accident near our house and I told her that was the same spot as the one I told her about the week before and she had no idea what I was talking about. She also told kids they'd have ice cream last night but went into work and to her friends and forgot so I had to take them. She's out of the blue, sworn, then said I forgot x at work a few times this week as well.
I'm trying not to be completely dark but not too eager to talk. Hopefully I can find the right balance.
