If you snoop then you are not detaching. If you are verifying she can find other ways to contact OM so your verification is unreliable.
In short, I would say not care about it.
One thing I have found out about women is that you know when you are not the man in their heart. Forget about what she is doing behind your back and focus on what she is doing infront of you.
FYI I judge my R on the interactions with my W. if I am happy with the way it is going and what I am feeling. If she shows me no love or I am not happy, does it matter if there is OM?
If she shows me love and is kind and loving... there may be OM but I would likely guess there is not.
At the end of the day time puts everyone in their place.
