I agree with what TX Hubby said in your last thread B, that your wife doesn't sound like a very nice woman, at least not now. Do you think she might be going thru a mid life crisis? My ex went thru a MLC (probably is still in it ), and, while he was never the most demonstrative or kind person, it turned him into kind of a vindictive, nasty, cruel monster for a while. Rough times!
It about broke my heart to read about your poor kids suffering so, and your daughter crying because your wife decided not to let her go to the concert in New Orleans (and blaming it on you!), and mocking your daughter's choices for electives. It's sad how many of the spouses on here use their kids to hurt the LBS. Sad....
Have you worked the trip out with your wife yet? She does not seem to be hearing that you don't mind if she takes them to New Orleans; you just want to make sure that you get to keep your son at another time for the same number of days. Losing six days of custody is a big deal in a state that determines custody arrangements by the number of nights that a child spends with each parent over the course of the separation.
Stand strong. Don't worry about all that crap she is threatening you with either - saying in court that you are an alcoholic, drug addict and thief. And also threatening to get her mom to lie about you in court. Just more threatening BS to try to get her way. You can show that you are in AA and have not had a drink in 4 months yesterday! Congratulations!
Originally Posted By: B
I definitely get the feeling that I'm being stung sometimes, but in my case I'm the one that is/has been the addict. Plus, I'm the super-codependent and my wife isn't. Long story short, I just keep feeling like it's wrong for me to simply let go of her. Logically it makes nothing but complete sense...but I still just feel like I shouldn't.
Go back and read what you advised your daughter. It applies to you here too!
Originally Posted By: B
Yes. ZERO pursuit. Focus on me. Focus on the kids. Focus on work, studying, and recovery.
By jove I think you've got it!
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
), and, while he was never the most demonstrative or kind person, it turned him into kind of a vindictive, nasty, cruel monster for a while. Rough times! 