You are so mature for your age. I feel kind of ashamed for the immature soul I am sometimes.
Yes you got it. GAL is a mix of things that you do to get yourself to a life you left somewhere long ago. It's like getting back with an update.
You do fun things with your kids... this time getting yourself to enjoy it and not just press the automatic bottom (Yes, been there, done that, I have three).
It is getting your nails and hair done, you make yourself important and you feel good about taking care after yourself. (Did this too, put myself in the last of the list).
It is getting a pair or pants or a blouse, nothing much, just a gift to yourself to let you know that you are doing good.
Some GAL alone. Like I said, I did long walks to clear my mind. Alone time doesn't mean lonely time. Alone time is your choice, and you chose to give yourself space to think, meditate.
And some GAL is going out with some friends for a happy hour, or dancing, or dinner, coffee. Going out at night makes you feed your mature side. You see people your age, you talk to different people, you engage in some flirting what does not hurt.
That and a lot more is GAL. The good news is that it is all for you.
Reg the firefighter. First, what is this with you and uniforms? LOL I think your situation with your H is not really defined yet even as separation. Going out in a group should be fine, no much danger there. And there is nothing wrong to talk to him. Maybe you can both help each other at this time.
Getting together for the wrong reasons will only bring more pain for both of you tough. He is lonely, hurt and you feel the same way. It is easy to lean on each other and things can spice up very fast from there.
And I agree with you, if your H knows about it, then there is a lot to fight about. Maybe with time, depending of how things will develop then a date wouldn't hurt.
But that is just my HO.
I think you are doing very good Red. It's not easy and yet you are allowing yourself to learn, to identify your faults, to try things that may bring back the spark between you and H, you are re learning to be fun, spontaneous, optimistic and I see that in the same time you are thinking about your career and how much money you can make, you have your L information that you need.
You came a long way already in a very short time. You are awesome. Keep the good work.
