Honey, after reading about your latest posts, I am more and more convinced that H has bona fide Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Not the usual chit bandied about here in the forums.
It looks like you are married to a man with a very deep-seated NPD. From literature, it is VERY hard to treat...if ever treatable. I am glad that you have IC, but I'd hate to see you prezeling over someone who really does not value you at all.
Google wikiHow on dealing with NPD.
This particular section fits your H you to a t based on what you write here:
Determine if it’s worth dealing with this person. This person has very little interest in listening to you and has a lack of interest in what your needs are.[5] Narcissists think they know more than others. Therefore, they see their decisions as the only logical answers to problems. Narcissists will expect that you will defer to their decisions. There will probably be power struggles or severe control issues in your relationship.
This person doesn’t seem to have an emotional investment in your relationship and becomes angry if there is a perceived criticism of any kind. He probably has a history of severing relationships over trivial causes.[7] If you are determined to maintain the relationship, how do you survive, and remain emotionally intact?
Determine if you cannot or will not walk away from this person in your life. If it’s a new acquaintance, it might be better to abandon the relationship.
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You are going have to ask yourself some serious questions.
1-Can H change? 2-Do you want to remain married to someone who does not value you at all? 3-What does that say about your own self-worth wanting to be married to someone who clearly mistreats you, minimizes you, and demeans you?
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