What Action do I take?

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I am not divorced, we are separated. I have no clue what will happen. I do know you will find that in house separation is near impossible. I also do not think i would be sitting around in the same house while my W had an affair.

So for your question as to how you should act, until you know she is done with OM definitely you can do nothing focusing on her in my opinion. And just that my opinion. My marriage did not have an affair involved, so i can not give first hand info on that.

to answer your question about what i wish i did or didn't do, yes i learned a lot here, but i ma not sure anything would have stopped us getting to this point right now. I know you may think there is a time frame involved in all of this, but there is not. If you go back and read some of the success stories some take years.

I guess at this point you kind of need to make a decision on what you want to do. i had a difficult time accepting things i was told here as well for a while, but as i kept going kind of doing my own thing and a little of on here i noticed i was getting no where. Now I am doing what s best for me nd my kids.

I do still have hope, but i deal with the reality as well. catch up on some threads of others and you can get a idea of what i mean.