What Action do I take?

[otw]

ok, so in house is beyond difficult. Google detachment in relationships. there is a link to a post around here covering detachment, i can not find it though. When i did, I printed it and read it often. I know I am far from detached no matter how much i want to be.

I did in house separation for 7 months, awful. I did all wrong in the beginning to then finding this place, but w still never truly got the space she needed and always had me to rely on for things. As i think back, i probably looked weak sometimes, but there was some motive to my actions. Of course i wanted to be around her and fix things. I think i can fix everything in life. this i can't. But i also changed things for 180's, but i am not convinced that 180s are all thats cracked up to be in house. They look at you like you are just trying to get them back and it won't last, or they say why now, too late.
I made some changes because i saw no progress and new my life was going to be flipped upside down and i needed to be prepared for when we no longer lived together.

I went and still go to IC to deal with some things. I took the issues she told me she had and worked through them. I know this is not the whole reason we aren't together and it is not my fault alone, but i don't ever want the same excuses from anyone.

GAL, i believe is extremely important. Yes get out with friends, but you need to find weekly activities as well. what are you interested in? What is something you always wanted to do? Something you stopped doing for the marriage?

Did W ever give you any reasons why she strayed or became unhappy?

Also, you must realize you are not dealing with a logical person right now. Do not think you know anything about what she is thinking one way or another and put nothing past her.