Hey look, I'm not chewing your a$$! I am a former wayward wife and I am trying to help you by telling you from the WW viewpoint. Don't expect me to coddle you. You were sounding pretty cocky when you were crowing about how good it felt to see her hurting, so don't try to go all soft and want me to be gentle with you.
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There isn't a fn manual on how to handle this.
Really?
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Gosh... I know it was for the wrong reasons, but I had a little happiness today. Then I come in here and get my tail handed to me. Probably deserved it, but be nice. I came here for help.
Yes, it was for the wrong reasons that you had a little happiness, and isn't that exactly what your WW was doing that led her to this point?
Had you rather me pamper you and tell fairy tales? This stuff is tough, and if you can't handle what I have to say....I don't know how you will handle what your wayward wife dishes out.
My intentions was not to squash your hope, but to prepare you for the reality that's coming. So many LBH's believe that when the A has been exposed then everything will be okay. Therefore, they aren't prepared and don't know what to do when they see things aren't fixed.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
