NYGal: Still Trying to GAL

[Sotto]

Hi NYG, I'm sorry this is so tough - but what you are looking for here is solid action and not words. Please don't believe the words only the action. For example:

"I'm getting closer to letting OW go" - I have told OW it is over and sent her a NC letter and managed to be OW free for 3+ months

"I just want to dial back to a year ago" - I have fully accepted how destructive my actions are and have expressed genuine remorse for them. I understand the damage caused and truly regret it. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to repair things with you

I feel she is toying with you and ATM she wants to have BOTH - doesn't really want to lose you OR OW. I think you have to take yourself firmly out of the equation here - unless she HAS ended things with OW. You could explain something like - we have no R at this point, and we won't have any sort of R whilst you are with OP. If you decide to end things with OP, that's your choice and we can talk again after that point.

Please don't keep getting dragged back on to the roller coaster with her my friend. Do you see that she is nowhere near where she needs to be at this point?

JMHO of course....