I can't blame you for how you feel! I don't know what I would have done in your shoes. But looking at it from the outside I would suggest you be careful as this could backfire on you. She could end up turning things around and feeling that you are NOW that man that ruined her perfect R and her M. I am just thinking how my WAW would throw this back on me.
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16