The note and the frame reflect her thinking/feeling now. The two important words there are HER and NOW.
Mutatia, I have let my W's behavior affect my own . It took at times enormous strength just to not be negative. Whereas that was still an achievement I was not being my best possible me because of the situation.You even wrote something to that effect for me.
So try to forget her silliness now. Are you being the best you you can be. If not focus on that. She will notice but it may not change anything.But this is for YOU. I fear that the despair and lack of hope are shining through. Don't let that be the case.
Best wishes and have a good weekend
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together